Collaboration is essentially the same as Cooperation. Is the Collaborative Family Law Process Right for You?
Couples traditionally retained lawyers who are trained to use an adversarial approach to win at any cost. They went to war on behalf of their client and the casualties are the children, as well as the divorcing parents. This is hugely expensive and emotionally devastating. In the end. the only winners are the lawyers who are getting very rich off people who insist on battling in court.
Some lawyers offer a collaborative process where they pledge to work as a group. The two lawyers and the divorcing couple all work together to negotiate a reasonable, fair and equitable solution without the warfare, the games and the extremely high costs of court trials.
The process uses informal discussions and conferences to settle all issues.
Confrontation is set aside and the process works through cooperation and negotiation. The divorcing couple provide the facts, the financial information and suggest solutions they can live with. The lawyers work with what the couple gives them.
Both spouses and both collaborative lawyers sign a contract agreeing not to go to court.
Both lawyers will help the divorcing/separating couple to reach a settlement which is acceptable to both parties. They may not get everything they want, but collaborative law will probably will get the best settlement for both parties.
This is preferable to letting a stranger, such as a judge, who knows nothing about you, determine how your children will be raised, your assets divided and in a real sense how you will live the rest of your life. That judge has nothing but some documents before him to make decisions affecting the rest of your life.