"It's too bad that the only people who can run this country are busy driving cabs and cutting hair" . . . George Burns
The mess in family law, in divorce, custody and access can't be just the fault of one or the other of the genders. Yes, lots of men and lots of women are inhumane, selfish, greedy and all round nasty people. But not everyone and certainly not the majority. Are you perfect? Am I?
Family law turns people into blood enemies, The divorce industry thrives on the misery of couples and children. The bigger the mess they can create, the more money they can make. Yes, that is part of the problem, but not all.
We have completely lost a moral centre. I am not talking about religion, though religion is a big a part of the problem.
No, we no longer keep our word.
We ignore the golden rule. It is too corny. We no longer tolerate the weakness and foibles of others but expect them to tolerate ours. Hard work is out. Self indulgence is in. Yes this is also part of the problem, but not all.
When we meet someone, we have sex as a prelude to getting to know their name. We move into together with a total stranger and play house, because anything is better then spending Saturday night alone.
Marriage is now nothing more then the new, preferred method of dating. That way no one has go get up in the middle of the night and go home.... And if something better comes along, dump the current paramour and move on. Hell marriage is only a piece of paper that gives us a tax deduction.
When we discover that we really don't like this stranger we married, we have kids as a distraction. If the kids cramp our style, we toss them in daycare and dope them with Ritalin so we are not inconvenienced.
Blaming each other is pointless in most cases. So often both parties are spoiled, selfish, narcissistic slobs who are not capable of mature self sacrifice, hard work and the honesty needed to make a marriage work. If one party forgets to pick up the Hagen Daz, the other party screams abuse.
All these are part of the problem.
As a society we have lost our way. We avoid all commitment, to spouses, to work, to education and most of all to ourselves. We seem to believe the world owes us a living.
How can we change these things? Simple. Start with ourselves. Practice keeping our word. Look out for number two.for once. Instead of expecting the world to change to meet our needs, maybe if we just set our own standards and lived by them we would find our corner of the world gets better.
Maybe. Maybe we improve the world, one person at a time. Starting with ourselves.
J Kirby Inwood
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Political correctness has become the primary weapon used against freedom of thought and freedom of speech. Now it is even being extended to control or limit your freedom of assembly and association.
Minorities are not at a disadvantage in Canada or other western countries. In fact they live enviable lives.
The high profile minorities have commandeered special treatment and privileges that most other Canadians simply do not have They suppress dissent by attacking their opponents as racist or sexist or any kind of "ist" they can invent.
People who take an opposing stand to some of the vocal minority groups are routinely attacked as racist, sexist, anti-Semite or homophobic by those who make handsome livings from government grants to promote the special treatment and privilege masquerading as freedoms in Canada.
They bully, using false accusations, intimidation and claims of harassment in the name of "charter rights" and political correctness. . . and they get away with it
In fact many of these groups have become like the pigs in Animal Farm. They exploit. They are now the problem not the solution. And if calling someone a pig offends, remember that for decades women called all men pigs and were rewarded for what was simply hate.
Being a member of a minority group does not make one correct. Just politically correct.
If you have an opinion on an issue, you are entitled to it. You do not have to accept that minority groups are right and you are wrong any more than you have to accept that your neighbour's religion is holier than yours.
Discrimination is wrong. But today it seems that the vocal militant minorities are the primary discriminators, not the general public. Charter rights challenges have become a huge industry The three most vocal groups in Canada, Indians, Feminists and Homosexuals account for some 80% of all the human rights law suits brought before the Supreme Court of Canada. Yet Canada is easily the most tolerant, non-discriminatory nation on the planet.
Our minorities have many more "rights" then the rest of us. They certainly have far more rights than they would in most of the rest of the world.
The general public, it seems, has been brain washed into a deep fear that criticizing the position or opinions of a minority group member makes them some sort of politically incorrect monster.
Not so. These groups have learned to use the media, the courts and the police as weapons to control and limit the freedom of the rest of us. There is no doubt that some minority group members flaunt and exploit their differences, apparently believing that only they have grasped truth and are in fact somehow, like True Believers, actually superior to the majority of Canadians.
Canadians have every right to disagree with the politically correct tyrants shouting down all who disagree with them
Canadians have every right to support the rights of the majority or to hold an unpopular opinion despite the various 'isms and a pandering press.
Members of both minorities and majorities have all the rights that the rest of us have.
The problem is not an issue of rights. The real problem is that so many of the vocal minority groups are not seeking equal rights, they are seeking, and getting, special privileges.